How To Live Stress Free By Saying NO

How To Live Stress Free By Saying NO

We all know the​ adage,​ “A mother’s work is​ never done.” in​ fact,​ this could become a​ modern-day mother’s theme song since we all have overbooked schedules and everybody wants something done yesterday.

We teach our children from a​ young age that it​ is​ impolite to​ say the​ word,​ “No,​” which was a​ lesson we learned in​ childhood,​ too. Now as​ adults,​ it​ is​ increasingly difficult to​ say,​ “No,​” to​ anyone for fear of​ being rude or​ being seen as​ unreliable.

Mothers need to​ learn that saying,​ “No,​” as​ an​ adult is​ not rude. Rather,​ it​ is​ a​ sign of​ someone who is​ in​ control of​ her life and her schedule. She knows what she is​ capable of​ accomplishing and she is​ aware of​ her other commitments.

Here are a​ few ways to​ gain back control of​ your life,​ simply by learning how to​ say,​ “No”:

1. Be selective when choosing to​ volunteer your time. Being involved in​ your child’s school is​ important but that does not mean you​ have to​ serve on​ every committee. Instead,​ choose one or​ two activities or​ committees that interest you​ and schedule that time on​ your planner.

2. Set limits on​ after-school activities. Sports teams or​ dance lessons are fun and help improve social skills but that does not mean your children have to​ be on​ a​ different team each season or​ take multiple lessons a​ week. Instead,​ teach your children how to​ choose activities that are most important to​ them and keep their focus on​ their studies.

3. Set boundaries with your clients. Your clients should not run your life. Instead,​ you​ should have a​ clear,​ working partnership in​ which each partner knows what is​ expected.

If you​ can still give your clients good customer service during set office hours,​ then do so. Chances are they would not want you​ calling during their family time so why should they interrupt during your family time?

4. Be honest about your skills. if​ you​ are not qualified to​ complete a​ particular project,​ whether it​ is​ a​ paid or​ volunteer project,​ be honest with your client and recommend someone with the​ right qualifications. Passing the​ job along to​ someone else who is​ qualified will show that you​ are in​ control of​ your schedule,​ you​ are honest about your skill level and you​ value the​ importance of​ the​ project by giving it​ to​ someone who can complete it​ properly.

5. Keep your calendar or​ planner up to​ date and use it. Schedule everything on​ one calendar,​ even exercise and family time,​ and keep it​ near the​ phone for easy reference when someone calls asking for a​ favor.

Bad habits are hard to​ break and saying,​ “Yes,​” to​ too many things can be considered a​ bad habit. Before committing to​ anything,​ spend some quiet time with yourself and decide what things you​ want to​ be a​ part of​ and how much time you​ have in​ your days. Sometimes we must compromise so we can successfully balance our family,​ work and volunteer lives.

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