How To Deal With Supermom Stress

How To Deal With Supermom Stress

One of​ the​ top stressors for women today is​ what many are calling the​ “supermom syndrome”. Many of​ us are led by society today to​ believe that in​ order to​ be successful Moms,​ we have to​ do it​ all,​ and give all. Nonsense. We all want to​ do our best as​ Moms,​ as​ we should. But at​ some point,​ for our own mental health,​ our best has got to​ be good enough. Here are some great ideas to​ reduce the​ syndrome at​ your house.

It’s ok not to​ be perfect. Let me say that again. It’s ok,​ not to​ be perfect. I think many of​ us hold ourselves up to​ a​ level of​ perfection that merely hurts our ability to​ be a​ good Mom. So what if​ the​ living room isn’t clean on​ Monday nights?…you had bedtime stories to​ read. Who cares if​ you​ had to​ choose a​ work presentation over your childs field trip…you’ll go next time. Not allowing ourselves any slack simply causes more stress in​ our lives,​ and prevents us from savoring every precious moment of​ being a​ Mom. Lighten up. It’s ok not to​ be perfect!

Don’t buy into societies hype that in​ order to​ be a​ good parent,​ you​ must offer your child every experience under the​ stars. Over and over again,​ psychologists talk about the​ dangers of​ over scheduling our kids,​ but it​ seems few are listening. it​ is​ not healthy for your child to​ learn to​ be so busy that he/she never learns to​ be with and like himself,​ to​ dream,​ use his imagination,​ or​ just be bored! Limiting your family to​ one extracurricular activity per child will help reduce family stress both in​ time and money. Do not let society guilt you​ into doing more…after all,​ this is​ the​ same society rules that say its ok for our children to​ starve themselves to​ look like movie stars,​ or​ to​ play Nintendo for 12 hours straight. is​ that what you​ want for your kids?

Make time for yourself. Make a​ rule that you​ will take 10,​ 20,​ even 30 minutes a​ day and shut out the​ world. Close the​ bedroom door,​ take a​ bath,​ take a​ walk…just have that time to​ yourself. you​ deserve it,​ and your family owes you​ that much. Do not feel guilty asking for it​ either! Tell the​ kids Mom is​ not to​ be disturbed unless someone is​ bleeding or​ something is​ on​ fire…then enforce the​ rule! Oprah says it​ well…if your cup is​ empty,​ how will you​ fill up the​ ones you​ love?

That being said,​ it​ is​ important to​ recognize your family as​ an​ essential part of​ your life. Stopping to​ smell the​ roses when it​ comes to​ your family will help you​ to​ keep your life in​ perspective,​ and therefore,​ reduce your daily stress. Make sure you​ take time for yourself,​ but also take time to​ spend with your family outside of​ the​ daily chores and running around. Let your children help you​ cook dinner,​ play cards together in​ the​ evening,​ take a​ walk around your neighborhood with your kids. Make sure you​ read to​ those little ones every night,​ and make sure you​ do those great voices with the​ characters! Laugh with your family,​ choose your battles wisely,​ and savor every moment of​ their precious childhood…before you​ know it,​ they will be tending their own families! (And won’t you​ feel good knowing what an​ example you​ were,​ cherishing your family as​ you​ do!)

Finally,​ make sure you​ remember who you​ are as​ a​ person. Not as​ Mom,​ or​ wife,​ or​ business associate,​ but as​ who you​ are. Cultivate old pastimes,​ and expand your world by developing new ones! Learn to​ play piano,​ paint,​ or​ to​ speak a​ different language. Read. Celebrate your spiritual life,​ and let yourself grow in​ the​ world that has been gifted to​ you.

It is​ time Moms stood up and made a​ stand…we don’t have to​ do it​ all to​ be good Moms. We already are good Moms,​ because we do our best. And that’s good enough.

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