How To Calm Yourself In Stressful Situations

How To Calm Yourself In Stressful Situations

Has something stressful or​ upsetting happened to​ you​ recently? Maybe it​ was a​ fender bender car accident,​ or​ telling a​ friend she did something that hurt you,​ or​ being triggered by something your spouse said,​ or​ stepping on​ stage to​ make a​ presentation.

Even when you​ are following what lights you​ up and creating more of​ what you​ truly want in​ life,​ not every moment of​ every day will be filled with ease,​ joy,​ and pleasure. Each of​ us has moments,​ situations,​ and experiences that stress and upset us.

What can you​ do to​ help yourself during those times? How can you​ calm yourself until you​ gain more perspective to​ effectively deal with the​ situation?

Use your personal 911!

What is​ a​ Personal 911?

911 is​ the​ phone number we call in​ the​ U.S. when we have an​ emergency and need help fast. We don't have to​ figure out what kind of​ help is​ needed or​ which number to​ call; we already know if​ we have any kind of​ emergency,​ dial 911. the​ 911 dispatcher sends the​ police,​ fire department,​ or​ medical responders; the​ right help is​ quickly on​ its way. 911 is​ an​ easy and effective emergency system.

What about when you​ have a​ more personal "emergency?" you​ can't call the​ community 911 system just because you're stressed,​ jarred,​ upset,​ anxious,​ angry,​ or​ afraid and want some relief and help quickly. But you​ can call on​ your own personal 911.

Your personal 911 is​ a​ sentence,​ phrase or​ word you​ say to​ yourself during trying times,​ something designed to​ ease and calm you. Your 911 is​ simple and easy so you​ can use it​ anytime and anywhere.

You choose it​ in​ advance and use it​ as​ your first,​ immediate response when you​ are stressed and upset. No need to​ think about it; as​ soon as​ you​ realize you​ need personal emergency help,​ you​ just start saying it.

Your personal 911 will provide some quick relief,​ reducing your stress and calming you. Once you're calmer,​ you​ can then take whatever additional actions are needed to​ help yourself and to​ deal with the​ situation.

Would One of​ These Work For You?

I just used a​ personal 911 myself. I was meeting a​ friend for breakfast and I had something to​ discuss that was difficult for me. Anticipating the​ conversation stirred me up; I was agitated and anxious,​ my mind was racing.

To calm myself,​ I used one of​ my personal 911s: "I choose peace." I kept saying this to​ myself over and over and over again. I was able to​ shift some of​ my attention from the​ thoughts that were upsetting me to​ more soothing thoughts.

Did it​ make my problem disappear? No,​ but I was able to​ become much calmer than I had been. This felt better plus it​ allowed me to​ have a​ more effective conversation with my friend than I would have had if​ I'd been completely agitated.

Here are a​ few examples of​ personal 911s I and others have used:

* I choose peace.
* I choose love.
* I choose serenity.
* I choose joy.
* I choose love over fear.
* Everything is​ perfect.
* All is​ well.
* God,​ grant me the​ serenity to​ accept the​ things I cannot change,​ the​ courage to​ change the​ things I can,​ and the​ wisdom to​ know the​ difference.

While you're saying the​ words,​ you​ could also do a​ grounding technique such as​ pressing your feet firmly on​ the​ floor,​ rubbing your palms together,​ or​ deep breathing. Many people also add a​ homeopathic aid such as​ Bach's Rescue Remedy.

In Your Life

If you'd like to​ experiment with this the​ next time you're stressed or​ upset,​ here are some suggestions.

1) Choose your 911 now.

You've probably heard people say "I can hardly think straight!" Science has now shown that,​ in​ fact,​ we can't think clearly under certain conditions. When you​ are flooded with feelings and physiological stress responses you'll have a​ very hard time figuring out how to​ help yourself.

Have your emergency response prepared so it's ready when you​ need it. Then,​ in​ the​ midst of​ a​ stressful situation,​ you​ won't have to​ figure out what to​ do -- you​ just start saying your 911!

2) Choose something that will work for you.

There is​ not a​ universal personal 911 that will work best for everybody. Your most effective 911 will speak strongly to​ you: be powerful and meaningful enough for you​ that it​ will calm you,​ shift your attention,​ and switch your perspective. it​ may be one of​ the​ examples above or​ it​ may be something completely different.

3) Use it!

When you're feeling stressed or​ upset,​ use your 911. Repeat it​ over and over,​ like a​ mantra. if​ you​ start with the​ little things,​ the​ stuff that's mildly upsetting,​ you​ can build your ability to​ use this in​ tougher situations as​ well.

Your personal 911 is​ a​ simple tool to​ add to​ your life toolkit. you​ can quickly and easily call on​ it​ when you're in​ situations that challenge you. Using your personal 911 will reduce your stress,​ calm you,​ and allow you​ to​ more effectively respond to​ the​ situation.


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