Growing Up Is Fun But Really Stressful By An Adolescent

Growing Up Is Fun But Really Stressful By An Adolescent

College is​ one of​ the​ most important phases in​ any person’s life. There are some who enjoy these days by going to​ parties and watching movies and simply enjoy themselves,​ there are others who have to​ work and provide for to​ a​ family at​ the​ same time. This period,​ like any other period,​ in​ a​ person’s life goes through in​ phases and with each phase comes an​ increasing level of​ stress. Some stress is​ good and is​ necessary,​ it​ is​ termed as​ Eustress. it​ is​ the​ minimum level of​ stress that keeps us motivated to​ do our best and thus is​ positive in​ nature. Some stress is​ negative and its constancy can cause us much harm,​ this kind of​ stress is​ known as​ Distress.

The first change that occurs with college is​ the​ absolute freedom we receive,​ and we are not always use to​ it​ and get carried away in​ the​ process. Important decisions are to​ be made,​ like what courses to​ choose and what career to​ follow? Whether to​ live at​ home or​ in​ a​ hostel? Students have to​ develop an​ ethical value system that is​ best suited to​ them. Once the​ courses are chosen,​ the​ most common reason for stress is​ grades. the​ students put themselves under a​ lot of​ pressure to​ perform better,​ the​ professors often tend to​ side
the ones who score high marks rather than focusing on​ how much the​ students learn,​ the​ pressure to​ perform together with the​ pressure to​ impress could lead to​ a​ lot of​ stress. Students who enter college on​ scholarship programs or​ those from low socio economic status who have the​ responsibility of​ caring and providing for the​ family,​ suffer the​ most. Some of​ them even take up part time jobs that leave them no time to​ relax.

Next in​ line are friends. Friends are the​ most important part of​ any ones life. Friends give our life meaning and to​ some extent help us find our inner self. Making new friends and adjusting with their lifestyles is​ never easy. Sometimes it​ may lead to​ change in​ the​ value system. in​ the​ shoes of​ a​ non-smoker,​ “Do I really need to​ smoke to​ fit in​ the​ group?” Sometimes individuals change their entire perspective on​ life. Deciding on​ giving in​ to​ peer pressure or​ to​ stick with your own values and judgments often lead to​ conflict and stress.

Love is​ another important change in​ an​ adolescent’s life. There are different kinds of​ lovers. There are some who feel love is​ a​ game. Some feel it​ is​ something which would make them cool. Some are just flirting and then there are those who think love is​ eternal and forever. With these different perspectives sometimes different kinds of​ lovers get together. This could lead to​ a​ lot of​ stress. From one of​ my heart broken friends I got this,​ “My boyfriend
thinks love is​ just another game in​ life. if​ you​ are strong enough you​ will win the​ game or​ else you​ are a​ looser. Sex is​ just another parameter just like cloths or​ shoes in​ life.” Many times sex is​ misunderstood and misused as​ love. Sometimes girls feel pressurized into being physical on​ the​ demand of​ their boyfriends. Sometimes it​ can lead to​ date rape or​ sexual harassment also. Most girls get too embarrassed to​ talk about it​ or​ seek much needed help; this resistance is​ very harmful to​ their mental and physical health.

With love and relationships come break-ups. Breakups are never easy. it​ can lead to​ self doubt,​ feeling depressed,​ and can sometimes also lead to​ a​ negative and poor self image. By the​ age of​ 17,​ most of​ the​ college students have had their heart broken and fallen in​ love all over again. By the​ time they are 18,​ they face different kind of​ stressors. Now they are official adults and have far more responsibilities. There is​ a​ conflict inside of​ them,​ as​ they
are not children and not totally adults. They have to​ find socially accepted ways to​ express themselves.

This is​ a​ period where adolescents usually face identity confusion. They are in​ the​ process of​ making an​ individual identity based on​ their on​ values. Sometimes these values go against the​ values of​ their parents and family systems. in​ a​ typical Indian society,​ there are a​ lot of​ gender related stressors. Adolescent girls are under the​ pressure of​ getting married,​ and many times against their will. She is​ expected to​ perform all the​ house hold functions
and duties and has to​ manage her education and homely duties which can be very stressful. She is​ expected to​ be humble and respectful and is​ many times not allowed to​ speak her mind. She is​ dominated by the​ wishes of​ her father and is​ given very little freedom. on​ the​ other hand the​ male child is​ encouraged to​ go out,​ and make a​ living. They are given more freedom than women.

These are few stressors that my surveys conclusively indicated. There are far too many that are faced by the​ adolescents of​ today. the​ stressors faces by adolescents today are far more different from the​ ones faces by their parents or​ even their elder siblings. the​ adolescents in​ our modern world are aware and willing to​ make a​ difference.

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