Writing Eulogies That Honor Those Lost

Writing Eulogies That Honor Those Lost
Losing a​ family member or​ close friend can be devastating and can have a​ lasting effect on​ all who knew the​ person who has passed .​
Dealing with the​ loss of​ a​ loved one can be difficult and may require talking about your feelings,​ expressing your condolences to​ a​ family member or​ writing about your grief in​ a​ diary or​ blog .​
Funeral or​ memorial services are also a​ means to​ share in​ the​ pain and express love for the​ deceased in​ order to​ heal.
One reason for the​ elaborate ceremonies around death is​ to​ help with that loss .​
Funeral rituals are designed to​ help ease the​ transition .​
In many cultures and religious traditions,​ part of​ these rituals is​ the​ delivery of​ a​ eulogy – a​ short memorial message celebrating the​ person’s accomplishments and important moments.
If you have been asked to​ deliver a​ eulogy,​ appreciate the​ honor you have been given .​
You may feel that you are too sad or​ that you don’t have the​ skills to​ write and deliver an​ appropriately moving tribute at​ a​ funeral or​ memorial service .​
If giving the​ eulogy is​ overwhelming to​ you,​ remember that while it​ may seem daunting,​ there are tips that can help you manage your anxiety and help you provide a​ service to​ both the​ living in​ their moment of​ loss and to​ the​ one you have lost.
If you are asked to​ deliver a​ eulogy for someone you know,​ take a​ moment to​ sort out your feelings about the​ deceased and gather your thoughts .​
a​ eulogy is​ designed to​ memorialize and celebrate the​ good things in​ the​ person’s life .​
Pulling together a​ selection of​ memories and comments about those things can be a​ remarkable way to​ begin to​ deal with your own grief .​
Also,​ ask other family members and friends to​ share their memories,​ anecdotes and stories of​ how that person touched their lives .​
Hearing and sharing these memories can help you create a​ more complete picture of​ the​ person for those who are hearing you.
Once you’ve gathered your information,​ decide how you will organize it .​
Eulogies can take a​ chronological approach,​ where the​ eulogist traces the​ person’s life in​ the​ order in​ which it​ happened .​
They can also be given as​ a​ story of​ a​ variety of​ portraits of​ important moments – snapshots of​ tender times,​ gently humorous anecdotes,​ and the​ like .​
If more than one person is​ delivering a​ eulogy,​ coordinate with them so both approaches are used.
If you find it​ hard to​ think of​ moving things to​ say,​ you may want to​ look at​ various sources for inspiration or​ short quotes to​ include in​ your speech .​
From the​ Bible or​ other religious texts to​ anthologies and websites of​ eulogy poetry and inspirational quotes,​ you may find the​ words you seek .​
Be careful,​ however,​ your own words are more important than anything you can find elsewhere .​
Keep the​ tone of​ the​ eulogy personal and use simple language so that the​ listeners can connect more directly to​ your words and the​ memories it​ conveys of​ the​ deceased .​
Typically,​ a​ eulogy runs around five to​ ten minutes in​ length.
Giving a​ eulogy is​ an​ honor .​
It is​ a​ chance to​ help others begin the​ transition to​ a​ life after the​ person’s passing .​
The eulogist has a​ chance to​ ease the​ pain of​ others by providing them with a​ picture of​ the​ best things about that person,​ something they can hold on​ to​ in​ the​ difficult days to​ follow .​
To be asked to​ deliver a​ memorial tribute is​ to​ be given the​ responsibility of​ assisting many .​
a​ little time and preparation in​ the​ writing stage can make a​ huge difference in​ the​ impact of​ your delivery and can help you and your friends and family in​ their time of​ need.
~ Ben Anton,​ 2007

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