Personal Growth Through Writing

Personal Growth Through Writing

From,​ “5 Seeds for Growing Your Writing and Writing Your Life” Your Most Important Relationship

The greater voyage of​ living begins with the​ intention to​ form a​ relationship. a​ relationship with yourself. Writing is​ a​ profound tool for doing so,​ but to​ be effective it​ requires the​ formation of​ another intimate connection. One with the​ page. From a​ practical standpoint,​ it’s easy. the​ only tools you need are a​ pen and paper. But to​ create a​ relationship that honors both the​ art of​ writing and the​ path of​ personal development,​ more is​ required. the​ tools – the​ pen and paper - are of​ no use if​ two other elements are not present: Commitment and Permission.

Be certain…I do not utter these words lightly; I know from experience the​ quiver they stir in​ the​ gut,​ the​ sweat they bring to​ the​ hands,​ and the​ turning away from many an​ adventure that has been done in​ their name. Still,​ they are the​ companions you must befriend if​ you are to​ become a​ traveler on​ this journey,​ if​ you are to​ come to​ know and grow yourself through the​ act of​ writing.

Let’s begin by expanding upon what I mean by a​ “relationship” with the​ page. if​ you choose to​ make writing a​ part of​ your life it​ is​ no different than any other relationship you forge. a​ simple,​ basic truth is​ that if​ you want your connections with your significant other,​ your family and your friends to​ work,​ to​ be strong and good,​ then you must,​ most essentially,​ show up to​ them. You cannot ignore or​ neglect them; but,​ must,​ with willingness of​ spirit,​ offer to​ them your time,​ your energy and your enduring presence. You must,​ in​ short,​ commit. it​ is​ no different with writing.


Writing that is​ real,​ that moves and touches and transforms is​ not created by making of​ it​ a​ mere acquaintance. Rather,​ such writing is​ developed through an​ intimate connection,​ one made by showing up to​ meet the​ page,​ by discovering the​ words and energy within you that desire and demand expression,​ and by embracing the​ voice that is​ found between the​ lines. Understand,​ writing such as​ this is​ the​ greatest commitment you will ever make,​ for it​ is,​ remember,​ the​ commitment to​ enter into an​ authentic relationship with yourself. No matter what genre you engage in,​ your work will ring with only the​ amount of​ truth that you are willing to​ know within yourself.

And so,​ if​ you are to​ write,​ and write deeply,​ you must commit to​ this relationship with all of​ its perils (for without doubt you will meet upon your way characters,​ places and experiences you are not so fond of). Just as​ when stepping into any new relationship,​ or​ setting out on​ any voyage,​ you do so with your vulnerability exposed,​ unsure of​ what lies ahead,​ but willing,​ still,​ to​ enter into the​ unknown.

Why? For the​ treasures only found only in​ the​ adventure of​ relationship. the​ joy,​ the​ beauty,​ the​ rawness of​ being. the​ startling depth and breadth of​ experience. the​ way in​ which moments so painful,​ when met face-to-face,​ can become those that renew your vision and leave you wiser.

Too often,​ a​ relationship with oneself is​ the​ last to​ be given time or​ attention. But it​ is​ the​ most crucial. And the​ kind of​ relationship that the​ page demands is​ the​ kind that leaves nothing hidden. But it​ is​ also the​ kind that promises to​ love no matter what is​ found.

Getting Started

And so,​ how do you embark upon this relationship with the​ page,​ and with yourself? You write. And you write. And you write.

Develop a​ writing practice.

Call it​ journaling. Call it​ Ground Writing,​ as​ I do. Call it​ whatever you like,​ but if​ writing is​ a​ way in​ which you choose to​ know yourself,​ if​ writing is​ a​ skill you wish to​ hone or​ an​ art you desire to​ engage in,​ then you must first decide so,​ and then commit.

Simple steps:

• Get a​ notebook or​ journal – anything will do…a pad of​ paper,​ a​ spiral notebook with your favorite cartoon character on​ the​ front,​ a​ leather bound journal…

• Find a​ pen – not a​ pencil or​ computer keyboard. Let yourself learn the​ flow of​ your words as​ they move from heart and gut to​ hand…without erasure.

• For one week commit to​ daily writing.

• Decide upon an​ amount of​ time – I suggest starting at​ 5 minutes and increasing each day by another 5 minutes.

• Choose a​ time of​ day.

• Put the​ time on​ your calendar for each day of​ the​ next 7. Make an​ appointment with yourself and honor it​ as​ you would any other.

• When the​ time arrives,​ find a​ comfortable place to​ sit,​ take notebook and pen in​ hand,​ set a​ timer,​ and write.

• if​ you don’t know what to​ write,​ begin with this: “Right now,​ I…” and let your hand decide the​ next word,​ and the​ next…

• When the​ week comes to​ an​ end,​ review your commitment.

oWere you able to​ keep it?
oIf not,​ what obstacles stood in​ your way?
oWhat is​ one thing you could do to​ remove the​ obstacles or​ work around them?
oWould you like to​ continue writing? Daily? if​ not,​ how often?
oWhat writing practice would work for you? What schedule would you be willing to​ commit to? Write it​ down your,​ try it​ out.

• Continue to​ review and revise as​ necessary. Stay Committed.

Receiving Permission

Permission. I wonder when you read that word,​ what comes to​ mind…from whom do you think I mean for you to​ gain permission?

Not from your spouse or​ your children or​ your boss. But from yourself.

One of​ the​ biggest reasons that students give for not continuing a​ writing practice is​ the​ belief that it​ is​ a​ self-indulgent act for which they have no time. I realize that life is​ filled with “commitments” and that it​ is​ easy to​ turn writing for your own purposes into an​ expendable hobby. Practices done for reasons outside the​ scope of​ fiscal or​ social productivity tend to​ be surrendered first. But to​ truly embark upon this voyage in​ a​ way that will enhance your writing and your knowing of​ yourself,​ it​ is​ imperative that you allow for the​ opportunity to​ step upon the​ path.

Ask yourself: Why do I want to​ write? Write down your answer.

Now say aloud,​ “I give myself permission to​ write because (fill in​ your answer from above).”

Accept that whatever the​ reason you desire to​ write,​ it​ is​ reason enough. Period.

Write down your permission statement from above and post it​ someplace where you will see it​ everyday,​ and when you do,​ repeat it…again and again and again,​ until you deeply and fully believe it.

Planting Seeds

And now begin. Write,​ and know that each time you do you plant a​ seed in​ your consciousness,​ one that grows with every word,​ one that will bear fruit in​ the​ shape of​ your own creative life,​ that will,​ in​ time,​ produce the​ seeds of​ your next journey.

Personal Growth Through Writing

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