Moving Through Breakdowns With Transformation

Success in​ recovery, or​ rather, staying in​ recovery, is​ dependent upon​ a​ variety of​ factors. for​ example, it​ appears that attending daily NA or​ AA meetings and​ staying in​ communication​ with ones chosen sponsor will definitely assist an​ individual in​ successfully implementing his recovery plan. Getting and​ staying committed to​ working the 12 Step Program also appears to​ increase the probability of​ the person​ staying abstinent from drugs and​ alcohol. While the above-mentioned elements of​ a​ persons overall recovery plan are crucial to​ his recovery, another major factor that will greatly influence an​ individual's continued abstinence is​ how he is​ able to​ handle the breakdowns that happen in​ life.

Knowing about breakdowns, what they are and​ how to​ manage them, is​ absolutely necessary for​ one to​ stay committed to​ his recovery plan. Breakdowns are what brought an​ individual into treatment and​ eventually created the space for​ him to​ begin​ his recovery. Breakdowns also happen while a​ person​ is​ in​ treatment and​ will continue to​ take place after he leaves. Even after successfully completing a​ treatment program, breakdowns are almost certain​ to​ happen as​ one returns to​ the community from which he came. in​ fact, both the client and​ his counselor should expect breakdowns to​ occur after treatment. it​ is​ for​ this​ reason​ that knowledge of​ the structure of​ breakdowns and​ how to​ transform them is​ very important if​ not crucial for​ the individual wanting recovery.

What are breakdowns? Experientially breakdowns start to​ occur when an​ event or​ events happen that the individual believes should not happen or​ ought to​ happen differently than how they take place. as​ a​ result the individual starts to​ feel frustrated, angry, disappointed or​ even sad about what is​ happening in​ his life. Inside these types of​ emotions the person​ starts to​ become resentful, creating a​ story about the event and​ to​ which he will eventually begin​ to​ blame, be it​ other people, places, things, situations or​ circumstances for​ that which is​ appearing. a​ breakdown eventuates into a​ relapse when the individual believes that his experience is​ intolerable, feels inadequate with respect as​ to​ how to​ handle it​ and​ chooses to​ use drugs or​ alcohol to​ reduce the emotional component of​ that he is​ experiencing. in​ this​ case, a​ breakdown and​ ones inability to​ transform it​ leads directly to​ relapse.

Inside the work of​ transformational counseling, the process of​ enrollment will assist the individual in​ becoming authentic where he was being inauthentic and​ also allow that person​ to​ stay in​ his recovery. Enrollment is​ the third component of​ transformational counseling the utilization​ of​ which allows the individual to​ again​ move out of​ his self-limiting belief and​ back into being his created possibilities. When one begins to​ experience a​ breakdown he has gone back into being his self-limiting belief. Their will be the pretense of​ what is​ happening and​ that which is​ again​ hidden from him hence the created inauthenticity. The technology of​ the enrollment process allows the individual the ability to​ transform the experience by being authentic and​ as​ a​ result regaining his power and​ freedom through being his possibilities. Utilization​ of​ the process of​ enrollment as​ with transformation​ itself is​ a​ practice that requires a​ great deal of​ commitment. as​ with any skill the structure of​ enrollment is​ taught and​ it​ is​ in​ communication​ with the persons coach or​ even sponsor that its implementation​ is​ brought forth into the individual’s life.

The first component of​ enrollment has to​ do with recognizing when one is​ in​ a​ breakdown. The key to​ such awareness is​ to​ be found in​ how the individual is​ feeling about what is​ happening in​ his life at​ any one moment. There are many times in​ our lives where we do not stop to​ monitor or​ become present to​ how we are feeling. Sometimes we have a​ tendency to​ merely ignore or​ move away from how we are feeling about something or​ someone. Breakdowns have certain​ emotions attached to​ their design. Those most common​ are emotions such as​ fear, anxiety, anger, frustration​ and​ sadness. The first part of​ utilizing the enrollment process is​ to​ monitor ones feeling state, to​ become present to​ how one is​ feeling and​ to​ do so to​ the point that it​ becomes part of​ ones very way of​ being in​ the world. Learning how to​ stay aware of​ ones emotional state is​ crucial to​ being able to​ successfully transform the breakdown experience that is​ being created.

The second component has to​ do with becoming present to​ the story that the person​ is​ creating with respect to​ the breakdown. While the emotional state of​ the individual is​ very important to​ become aware of, listening to​ the story that he is​ creating is​ also equally of​ importance. Within​ a​ conversation​ of​ transformation, every emotion​ is​ created by a​ thought. When there are negative emotions present in​ a​ person’s life as​ he is​ experiencing a​ breakdown there are also corresponding thoughts taking place. The thoughts that are taking place will appear as​ a​ story in​ the person’s mind. Within​ a​ breakdown the story will be other oriented, involving external people, places, things, circumstance or​ situations. Within​ the structure of​ the story, inherent to​ it, will be the belief that the external events are the real or​ true cause of​ how the person​ is​ feeling. it​ is​ with these thoughts that the breakdown and​ inauthentic way of​ being exists, a​ pretense that it​ is​ about another, hiding what it​ is​ truly about. as​ mentioned above, blame and​ resentment will eventually result. Becoming present to​ the story is​ vital if​ one is​ not to​ impulsively act upon​ it​ and​ as​ a​ result bring its destructive consequences into existence with respect to​ his life. Becoming present or​ an​ observer to​ ones story is​ crucial to​ transforming a​ breakdown.

The third component involves becoming present to​ ones self-limiting belief, to​ the source, to​ that which actually created the breakdown. Becoming present to​ ones self limiting belief, to​ that which has determined ones life up until the process of​ transformation​ began to​ take place, is​ the first component in​ the process of​ transformational counseling. Even though the distinction​ of​ ones self-limiting belief will create the space for​ the person​ to​ begin​ to​ create his life anew, it​ does not go away, become fixed or​ get cured. The self-limiting belief, much like a​ virus that has appeared in​ the human body, continues to​ exist. as​ with any idea that we have or​ create about us, it​ is​ also a​ way of​ being. We be or​ exist by what we think and​ more specifically by what we think about ourselves. What we are familiar with is​ being our self-limiting belief in​ the world. it​ is​ familiar for​ us to​ think and​ feel that the world is​ more powerful and​ real than we are and​ furthermore, that it​ is​ something that must be controlled and​ even survived. We will eventually experience a​ breakdown given our sense of​ inadequacy with respect to​ the world as​ this​ is​ how we have been in​ the community in​ the past. However, once the self-limiting belief is​ again​ distinguished the inauthenticity begins to​ weaken or​ be dissolved.

The fourth component of​ enrollment involves creating a​ possibility inside the breakdown experience. this​ act of​ creation​ can be to​ invent a​ new possibility or​ enroll oneself back into a​ person’s previously chosen possibilities. Creating possibilities for​ ones life is​ the second component of​ transformational counseling. However, once we get it​ that we are being our self limiting belief, that the source of​ the breakdown is​ the self limiting belief and​ not that which the story tends convey, it​ is​ at​ that moment that we can generate a​ possibility to​ be at​ that moment, a​ possibility to​ stand​ inside given the breakdown experience. it​ is​ by generating a​ possibility by our spoken word that the experience itself will transform. The breakdown only happens because of​ who we are being. it​ is​ by causing a​ possibility to​ come into existence through our word that the inauthentic way of​ being completely dissolves and​ with it​ the breakdown itself. it​ is​ with the creation​ of​ a​ possibility that the person’s power and​ freedom are once again​ restored.

The final component of​ the enrollment technology is​ acknowledgement. Once the experience is​ transformed it​ is​ important for​ a​ person​ to​ get the victory that his possibility has made for​ himself and​ his life, to​ acknowledge the difference of​ such a​ victory. Acknowledgement is​ about getting how the created or​ invented possibility has transformed the breakdown from what it​ was to​ that which is​ truly a​ breakthrough for​ the individual, especially with respect to​ the event or​ experience occurring. Acknowledgement is​ about getting the power of​ our word for​ allowing us to​ transform breakdowns into breakthroughs, to​ once again​ become our possibilities. it​ is​ this​ acknowledgement that strengthens ones process of​ transformation​ leaving the person’s power, freedom and​ self-expression​ fully restored. Acknowledgement is​ about standing in​ ones possibility, celebrating ones power and​ freedom having given up being a​ victim.

The practice of​ enrollment will make a​ difference for​ the person​ wanting recovery. Applying the technology of​ enrollment will enable the person​ to​ transform a​ breakdown when it​ happens and​ as​ a​ result avoid the destructive and​ possibly even lethal consequences that would have happened as​ a​ result of​ staying in​ a​ breakdown. for​ the individual in​ recovery, staying in​ a​ breakdown only increases the chances that he will turn to​ drugs and/or alcohol to​ reduce the emotional component of​ a​ breakdown. Staying in​ a​ breakdown as​ opposed to​ being able to​ transform tends to​ lead to​ relapse. Clients at​ the Holistic Addiction​ Treatment Program in​ North Miami Beach, Florida are taught to​ distinguish their self-limiting belief, create new possibilities for​ their life and​ furthermore, how to​ utilize the power of​ enrollment technology. The success of​ utilizing enrollment and​ even recovery itself, especially in​ the early stages of​ sobriety, will necessitate the person​ staying in​ contact with his sponsor or​ counselor especially when breakdowns happen. it​ is​ only in​ communication​ with another that the individual will continue to​ be his possibilities in​ life.

Harry Henshaw, Ed.D., LMHC

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