Gaining Self Esteem

Gaining Self Esteem



When our self esteem is​ low, we tend to​ have the habit of​ picking at​ ourselves. Little self criticisms enter our thoughts constantly, and​ a​ lot of​ the time we do not even realize we are doing it! We just feel crumby. it​ is​ simply a​ bad habit to​ pick at​ your​ self, but since that makes us feel sad and​ incompetent it​ limits us from doing all we can in​ life. When we notice we are doing self criticizing, we can argue with the criticism and​ that helps. But if​ each evening we just think of​ three things we can feel good about ourselves, that would go a​ long way to​ building a​ more positive habit of​ looking at​ ourselves in​ terms of​ the good, rather than the bad and​ help us in​ life.

We deserve to​ have better self esteem. and​ the stronger we are, the more we can help others and​ want to​ help others, so we should never feel guilty about feeling good about ourselves. it​ is​ not selfish. There is​ a​ big difference between healthy self esteem and​ being egotistical or​ insensitive to​ others. The egoist usually does not feel good about themselves. Their big words about themselves is​ a​ cover up how small they feel. Self esteem is​ often quiet. Some person​ with good self esteem is​ not threatened by others criticizing them. With healthy self esteem they can laugh at​ their own mistakes, rather than having mistakes make them unhappy and​ sad.

So at​ the end of​ each day, write in​ a​ journal or​ an​ online blog at​ least three things that either you​ did today or​ ways that you​ are, that are things that you​ can feel good about or​ proud of. Maybe you​ were kind to​ someone or​ did a​ task very well, or​ resisted a​ temptation, or​ just simply did your​ best and​ tried, even if​ things did not turn out well. What kinds of​ things do you​ admire in​ other people? Did you​ do any of​ those things today? What qualities did you​ admire in​ your​ parents? Do you​ take after them in​ any of​ those ways? Are there other ways you​ chose consciously not to​ be like? Have you​ avoided addictions or​ crime? We already have many qualities we take for​ granted. Perhaps you​ received a​ compliment or​ two today, or​ a​ thank you​ note, and​ those are also good things to​ note. Do remember all these things in​ your​ daily life.

Write three things a​ night for​ a​ week to​ start and​ then try to​ make it​ a​ whole month slowly and​ slowly. Every person​ has value, every single day. you​ especially need to​ write three things on​ those days when you​ feel less good about yourself, but if​ you​ miss a​ night, just start again​ the next night. in​ a​ month you​ will have a​ little collection. it​ can be a​ good thing to​ re-read when you​ are feeling low. and​ will feel a​ noticeable difference as​ you​ go through your​ day.




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