Abundance Mentality

Abundance Mentality

This is​ one of​ the​ biggest secrets to​ finding and keeping a​ good life partner. it​ not only boils down to​ what you​ do,​ but how you​ think.

Here's what happened.

Some time ago,​ in​ my 30's I spent nearly 2 years single. I used to​ wake up in​ the​ morning,​ leave my expensive house,​ get into my sports car and drive to​ my successful engineering business. After work,​ I went to​ the​ health club on​ my way home,​ exercised,​ played squash etc. Often women looked my way and were friendly towards me. Yet I never dated for months on​ end.

What's wrong with this picture?

I had left a​ painful relationship,​ where I had been rejected by my partner daily. So I believed,​ that no-one would ever love me again,​ because I was not worth it. This belief came true in​ my life.

I just didn't think that there was someone out there,​ interested in​ me. This of​ course made it​ right.

Was it​ because I was unattractive? Hardly,​ I had a​ good build,​ clear skin,​ was fit and healthy,​ and even though I didn't look like Richard Gere,​ I certainly wasn't ugly.

Was it​ because I was financially insecure? No,​ I owned a​ good business,​ drove a​ fancy car and lived in​ a​ big house with a​ view.

So there was nothing physically,​ causing my problem. it​ was all in​ my mind.

Hey,​ it​ gets worse. After some counseling and reading lots of​ books,​ I actually got to​ go and take some action to​ meet some new people. Then when I did find someone,​ guess how that worked out.

You see,​ deep down,​ I still had that limiting attitude,​ that I was really fortunate to​ get anyone at​ all that wanted to​ be with me. They sensed it​ like sharks smelling blood in​ the​ water. Describing it​ as​ that I partnered up with a​ predator,​ would have been an​ understatement.

The person I attracted,​ was a​ gold digger,​ having no scruples about sleeping with whoever she felt like. Was it​ her fault,​ yes BUT it​ was more my fault. I realized that I allowed it​ to​ happen in​ my mind first. I believed that this was the​ best I could achieve and had to​ accept that behavior to​ actually have anyone in​ my life at​ all.

Eventually the​ boundaries of​ even my twisted logic broke,​ when she came back after being with another man,​ drunk and tried to​ stab me with a​ kitchen knife.

How could I allow it​ to​ get that far? Easy,​ I didn't understand that I had choices. When I realized that even being alone again was better than my present situation,​ I did get out of​ that relationship.

Cutting a​ long story short,​ the​ whole issue was me having the​ wrong belief system.

It took some time,​ but eventually,​ I accepted that I was actually OK,​ and a​ lot of​ women could do far worse than to​ be in​ a​ relationship with me. I now also understood,​ that there were actually many thousands of​ potential partners for me.

As soon as​ I started believing this,​ it​ was as​ though some flood gates had opened. I kept running into potential partners at​ every turn,​ and I was off the​ singles scene very quickly.

All I did differently was that I had now accepted that there is​ actually a​ complete abundance in​ our universe. an​ abundance of​ suitable people. it​ was my choice,​ to​ accept or​ reject this fact. That made the​ difference. Now my physical actions could lead me to​ my true desires.

My external surroundings had not changed much,​ Physically I was the​ same (except getting a​ bit older,​ and not much wiser),​ but my life had turned 180 degrees. Because I allowed it​ to. I let my mind accept that anything is​ possible,​ and nothing could stand in​ the​ way of​ a​ strong enough belief.

But,​ only severe pain brought about this realization.

You can avoid the​ pain. Understand the​ above,​ you​ have many choices now. They will let you​ do things in​ more positive ways. Realize,​ that life will end up teaching you​ either way,​ let it​ be a​ pleasant instead of​ painful lesson.

In conclusion,​ imagine it,​ believe it,​ and see what happens.

Remember,​ keep on​ loving


Abundance Mentality

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