Lose The Weight You Want Forever

Lose The Weight You Want Forever



Why is​ losing weight so difficult? the​ answer is​ relatively simple for those of​ us who have added some extra weight—we need to​ eat less and exercise more. So,​ why do we​ continually find ourselves in​ the​ same place year after year with carrying around more weight than we​ want to?

The problem is​ that there are many nonconscious issues that often sabotage our best-laid plans. This article will help you understand some of​ what may be preventing you from making the​ forward progress that you want.

Preliminary Steps

One of​ the​ first things to​ look at​ is​ your need strength profile. This is​ a​ self-assessment that determines which of​ a​ person’s five basic needs drives the​ majority of​ that person’s behavior. All of​ us have the​ same five basic needs but freedom may be my highest need,​ while love & belonging may be yours and survival may be someone else’s. the​ other two needs are power and fun. These all play a​ huge role in​ why we​ do the​ things we​ do in​ the​ way we​ do them.

Next it​ is​ important to​ seriously consider all the​ things you want in​ your life,​ not just your weight loss goals but the​ whole of​ everything you want to​ do,​ have and experience in​ your life. Ask yourself the​ question,​ "What do I want? if​ I could have anything,​ what would it​ be? What do I really,​ truly want?"

After that,​ you want to​ narrow down what you want to​ a​ complete vision of​ how things will change for you after losing the​ weight you want to​ lose. What will you have that you don’t have now? What will you do differently? How will you be different? You must be able to​ clearly see the​ finished version of​ what you are attempting to​ accomplish with all its accompanying perks. This will become your own personal mental movie or​ daydream of​ how you want your life to​ be after accomplishing your weight loss goals. You will begin to​ visualize your success at​ least once a​ day.

The next step is​ to​ record all the​ things you do that both help or​ hinder your progress toward your weight loss plan. So,​ for example,​ if​ you were able to​ resist donuts for breakfast,​ write that down. if​ you ordered dessert after a​ meal at​ a​ restaurant,​ record that as​ well. in​ addition to​ the​ actual behaviors,​ you also must write down the​ thoughts and feelings you experience that either help or​ hinder your progress,​ too.

So,​ if​ you think to​ yourself,​ “It’s OK if​ I have this piece of​ chocolate. I was really good yesterday”—write that down. Then,​ if​ you have the​ thought,​ “Nothing tastes as​ good as​ thin feels”—write that down too. if​ you’re feeling bored and you grab a​ bag of​ potato chips,​ record the​ boredom feeling. if​ you feel elated when you skip a​ favorite dessert,​ write that down also. Keep track of​ everything you do,​ think and feel that either helps or​ impedes your progress toward your weight loss goals.

The next step is​ to​ critically evaluate the​ things you are doing,​ thinking and feeling and ask yourself the​ difficult question—“If I keep doing everything the​ way I’ve been doing it,​ will I end up with what I REALLY want? Will I accomplish the​ vision I have of​ my new life that I created in​ my mental movie?”

If your answer is​ yes,​ then great! You probably don’t even need to​ continue reading this article. Just keep doing what you are doing and you will get there. However,​ if​ your answer is​ no,​ then read on.

If your answer is​ no,​ then hopefully you have been successful in​ creating some cognitive dissonance for yourself. This is​ an​ uncomfortable feeling that provides you with information that you need to​ make some changes. Without experiencing this cognitive dissonance,​ it’s easy to​ continue with the​ bad habits we​ have developed over time. People generally don’t implement changes in​ their lives unless they are in​ some serious pain.

If you’re not moving forward toward your goal,​ the​ first thing you need to​ examine is: Do you have a​ burning desire to​ accomplish your goal? Whatever your weight and fitness goal is,​ you must have a​ burning desire to​ accomplish it.

Another possibility is​ that up until now you haven’t had a​ very good plan about how to​ go about losing weight. Without a​ solid plan,​ there will easily be loopholes allowing you to​ sabotage your success. Willpower alone only takes us so far when we​ are fighting our brain’s conditioning.

A third possibility is​ that you want something else that is​ competing with your weight loss plan. There are many possibilities to​ consider but you will find some clues,​ either hidden or​ obvious,​ in​ the​ list of​ your behaviors,​ thought and emotions that you previously developed. What do you do,​ think and feel instead of​ the​ things that will ensure your success with your weight loss plan? an​ excellent question to​ ask yourself is: “What would you have to​ give up to​ become successful with your weight loss goals?”

Once you become conscious of​ the​ other things you want in​ addition to​ losing weight,​ you have some decisions to​ make. is​ the​ thing you want something you want more than losing weight? if​ it​ is,​ then you can decide to​ give up on​ the​ idea of​ losing weight and simply be content doing,​ having or​ obtaining the​ other thing you want. You will then have a​ new goal toward which to​ work.

Another option is​ to​ consciously decide that you want to​ lose weight more than anything else. if​ that occurs,​ then you must specifically target your personal areas of​ temptation in​ your neural reconditioning program,​ which I will explain later.

Finally,​ the​ last option involves figuring out some kind of​ compromise so that you can have some of​ each of​ the​ things you want. For example,​ I just read in​ a​ magazine of​ a​ movie star who restricts her carbohydrate intake six days a​ week but then she allows herself as​ much pizza as​ she wants on​ Sundays. That’s a​ workable compromise.

The final question to​ ask yourself is: “Am I willing to​ do the​ necessary work to​ make my plan come to​ fruition?”

Developing your Plan

There are several things to​ take into account when making a​ plan. You must consider your most important needs and be sure to​ build in​ way to​ meet those needs while still losing weight. if​ your biggest need is​ love & belonging,​ then you may want a​ partner to​ work with you. if​ survival is​ your biggest need,​ then you will need to​ build in​ a​ way for you to​ feel safe.

If power is​ your highest need,​ then what you want to​ think about is​ perhaps making your weight loss a​ competition somehow. if​ your highest need is​ freedom,​ then you must begin to​ think about things,​ people,​ activities or​ places that allow you to​ feel free that won’t impede your weight loss progress and add them to​ your weight loss plan. if​ your highest need is​ fun,​ then you must find a​ way to​ make your weight loss fun for you.

The next step is​ to​ develop positive affirmations that support your weight loss goals. You must begin to​ reprogram the​ negative thoughts that are standing in​ the​ way of​ you accomplishing your goals. Oftentimes,​ these thoughts are even out of​ your conscious awareness but they prevent your success nonetheless.

Affirmations are positive,​ present,​ time sensitive statements affirming what you want to​ be true. Research shows that our brains do not know the​ difference between the​ truth and a​ lie. When you affirm a​ particular thought,​ value or​ belief in​ your mind frequently enough over a​ long enough period of​ time,​ your brain will begin to​ believe it. Consequently,​ the​ brain will mobilize its strong forces to​ do whatever it​ takes to​ manifest the​ thing you are claiming to​ be true in​ your life.

Write out as​ many affirmations as​ you want to​ support your goals. You may have affirmations about food,​ exercise,​ thoughts and anything else that will help you move in​ the​ direction of​ accomplishing your goals. There is​ no limit to​ how long your list of​ affirmations can be. You decide how much time you want to​ spend with them each day,​ with five minutes twice daily being the​ minimum. You should recite your affirmations once upon first waking up and then at​ the​ end of​ the​ day just before going to​ sleep.

It is​ helpful to​ look yourself in​ the​ eyes while saying your affirmation. You can do this,​ of​ course,​ with the​ use of​ a​ mirror. Look yourself in​ the​ eyes,​ as​ though daring the​ person in​ the​ mirror to​ dispute the​ truth of​ what you are saying. Repeat your affirmations with passion and conviction twice daily. if​ you can fit them in​ a​ third time around lunch,​ even better.

Next,​ you want to​ spend some time analyzing your food triggers—those things that prompt you to​ eat the​ wrong foods and to​ eat when you are not hungry.

Many people have substituted food to​ meet their needs in​ an​ unhealthy way. we​ eat when we​ are depressed,​ excited,​ stressed,​ bored,​ angry,​ or​ scared. Different people for a​ variety of​ reasons use emotions as​ triggers to​ eat. And it’s not as​ if​ we​ are diving into the​ refrigerator to​ pull out an​ apple or​ some carrots! No! we​ are reaching for the​ chocolate or​ the​ potato chips. And no,​ these are not in​ the​ 5th food group!

Emotions are only one thing that we​ use for a​ food trigger. Sometimes we​ eat to​ be social. Sometimes we​ eat because the​ food is​ free. Sometimes we​ eat because we​ are experiencing a​ particular craving. Sometimes we​ eat for comfort. Sometimes we​ eat because the​ clock tells us it’s time to​ do so.

Other times,​ we​ will eat when we​ are not hungry because we​ paid for the​ meal. we​ were told we​ must clean our plate and not waste food. we​ tell ourselves we​ don’t like leftovers so we​ better eat it​ up or​ maybe there isn’t enough to​ save and we​ don’t want to​ throw good food away.

In order to​ be successful with your new weight loss agenda,​ you must begin to​ think of​ food differently. No longer is​ food your best friend or​ the​ thing you reach for to​ comfort you. Food is​ simply fuel for your body. the​ only time to​ eat is​ when your body signals you that it​ is​ hungry and then you must be conscious of​ the​ food for which you reach.

Get conscious about the​ things you are doing as​ they pertain to​ weight loss. Paying attention and noting the​ events and circumstances that trigger your eating will provide you with a​ lot of​ information about what to​ do to​ fix things.

After analyzing your food triggers,​ it​ is​ appropriate to​ again ask the​ question,​ “What would you have to​ give up to​ accomplish the​ weight loss goals you’ve set?” You may have uncovered new information to​ consider.

If you’ve come this far,​ it’s time to​ construct your plan. First of​ all,​ this plan must be written. You are going to​ write yourself a​ contract! the​ first two items are your plan will include daily visualization of​ your new life and the​ recitation of​ your affirmations.

Include ways to​ get your primary needs met that won’t sabotage your weight loss efforts. Include elements of​ past successes that will add to​ your likelihood of​ success. Include efforts to​ do something different when you experience your strong food triggers. Be proactive about what you will do instead. Don’t simply write,​ “I will not eat when I am depressed.” Write what you will do instead.

When you are satisfied with the​ potential success of​ your plan,​ sign and date it. Then follow the​ plan you've made with dogged determination.




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