Friends With Benefits Can It Work

Friends With Benefits Can It Work



Is there ever such a​ thing as​ "No Strings Attached?" Can a​ friendship between two people withstand​ casual sex? or​ is​ that just an​ idealistic concept?

One night stands aren't as​ in​ as​ they used to​ be. Now lovers are coupling up for​ more long term sex. It's called "Friends with Benefits". They get all the benefits of​ a​ relationship without the commitment. They start out as​ friends. They enjoy each other's company and​ then one night start sleeping together.

They don't date. It's not a​ traditional "significant other" type relationship. in​ many cases, the other friends don't even know about their sex on​ the side. It's set up as​ a​ mutual gratification, friends helping friends arrangement.

What most Friends with Benefits fail to​ do is​ set up the rules. it​ generally starts out as​ either happenstance or​ perhaps a​ small dialog exchange, "I don't have anyone, you​ don't either, so let's do it, no strings attached. What do you​ think?" it​ all sounds well in​ good; at​ least initially when both are hornier than a​ unicorn. But can friends who sleep together remain​ friends once it​ ends? or​ is​ the start of​ mutual sex the start of​ the end of​ their friendship?

Sex creates a​ bond, no matter how discussed up front it​ is. Someone always gets hurt in​ the end of​ a​ no strings attached, Friends with Benefits arrangement. Booty Calls always start out with mutual orgasms as​ the sole purpose. Yet when two people share that kind of​ closeness, and​ if​ it's a​ recurring buddy booty call, then they spend time together. Someone is​ doing something very intimate with and​ to​ the other. Who isn't always appreciative of​ a​ good orgasm?

One or​ both may know that they don't want a​ commitment and​ that's why the No Strings Attached agreement was conceived. But when the "ooh baby, ya that feels so good, I love what you​ do to​ me" occurs regularly, how can they NOT start to​ feel something for​ the other? One person​ will inevitably feel a​ stronger emotional bond than the other; it's not male/female bias. One will still only love the physical benefits and​ the other will enjoy the great sex so much that they get attached, even though they weren't looking for​ any relationship.

Or perhaps one person​ may have always been secretly attracted to​ the friend and​ knew the other didn't want a​ relationship, yet figured a​ Friends with Benefits arrangement was better than nothing. Hence they verbally agreed to​ the arrangement but emotionally they were already hooked.

Develop some rules before entering into any such arrangement. Consider these suggestions: No going out with each other unless it's in​ a​ group situation​ or​ you​ know the night will end in​ sex, therefore the outing is​ part of​ foreplay, no public affection, no gifts and​ any other boundaries you​ want to​ instill. Before it​ starts, decide how it​ will end. if​ starting out as​ friends, the goal is​ to​ end as​ friends. if​ new love interests were previously discussed among friends, shouldn't those types of​ conversations still be allowed?

Use your​ head to​ consider wisely what may be lost if​ you​ enter into a​ Friends with Benefits arrangement




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