Is It Cheating Internet Flirtations Affairs And Love Connections

Is It Cheating Internet Flirtations Affairs And Love Connections



Donna was engaged to​ be married in​ two weeks. She was sitting at​ her fiancés computer, looking to​ find addresses to​ send early thank you​ notes when it​ happened. Donna “accidentally opened” the​ email that changed everything in​ an​ instant. “Tina, thanks for​ sending me those pics last night. They were even sexier then the​ ones you​ sent before. I’m sure I’ll be thinking about you​ and​ those pictures tonight as​ I drift off to​ sleep with a​ smile on​ my face.. I’ll call you​ tomorrow after work on​ my drive home.”

Stunned, sickened and​ panicked, Donna confronted Todd over the​ phone while he was at​ work. He was home in​ fifteen minutes and​ in​ a​ marathon fight that last until midnight Todd denied having an​ affair. He said he’d met Tina online in​ a​ chat forum and​ had never even met her in​ person. He wasn’t even sure Tina was her real name. Todd explained the​ stress associated with the​ upcoming wedding was killing him and​ he was just mindlessly browsing the​ web when he stumbled into this chat with his new online “friend”. at​ first they talked about day to​ day stuff, even the​ wedding plans. But after a​ couple of​ weeks it​ turned flirtatious, and​ after a​ couple more, sexual. He urged Donna to​ read the​ emails so she would believe him. as​ painful as​ it​ was to​ read the​ sexually charged correspondence, Donna read far enough to​ believe they’d never met. However, although they decided not to​ call off the​ wedding, Donna moved into the​ spare room. Too humiliated to​ face it​ she told no one! Fifteen days later she walked down the​ isle, in​ white, all smiles. Fast forward nine months to​ today. Todd and​ Donna are in​ couples counseling. the​ outlook is​ shaky at​ best.

This leads us to​ the​ question that is​ facing more of​ today's couples than can possibly be estimated. is​ an​ internet fling or​ flirting cheating?? My answer is​ simple, that answer is​ totally up to​ you. if​ you​ find out your mate has been heating up the​ internet with another woman and​ it​ bothers you, which I’m fairly sure it​ will, then yes, without a​ doubt, that’s cheating. the​ idea of​ “finding out” itself, indicates that there was hiding of​ the​ truth involved in​ the​ first place. if​ your man knew you​ wouldn’t dig it, so he hid it​ in​ the​ first place, then even he knew it​ was cheating – no matter what he says about how innocent it​ was. if​ you​ are one of​ the​ very small minority of​ women out there that would not be bothered by this behavior, who would shrug if​ off as​ “boys with a​ keyboard will be boys”, then you​ wouldn’t be asking this question in​ the​ first place.

Cheating used to​ be very black and​ white. However these days a​ lot of​ men would like to​ think the​ internet has created a​ million shades of​ grey. I beg to​ differ. I think cheating is​ still black and​ white. I think it’s fairly easy to​ define as​ a​ behavior that creates feelings of​ emotional or​ sexual betrayal. I think men know when they are cheating, almost always confirmed by their hiding the​ behavior in​ question. Now, I know, women do bad things too. However, statistically men are much more likely to​ engage in​ “internet affairs”. Not to​ mention many real world physical affairs start online and​ men who engage in​ questionable online behavior are vastly more likely to​ have a​ “real” affair.

So, in​ the​ end, only you​ know the​ answer. is​ it​ cheating? Ask yourself one thing, “does it​ feel OK to​ me?” if​ the​ answer to​ that question is​ no, then your answer is, yes, he is​ cheating. Don’t cut him any slack on​ interpretation of​ the​ rules. Trust me, in​ his heart of​ hearts, he knows it’s cheating too.




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