Emotions As Information

Emotions As Information



When you were a​ small child, your painful emotions may have felt too overwhelming to​ feel. if​ you experienced physical, emotional, or​ sexual abuse, your little body was not big enough to​ manage the painful feelings. if​ you were neglected, unseen, misunderstood, invaded, smothered, shamed or​ ridiculed, it​ may have felt too painful to​ manage. if​ you were a​ highly sensitive child with parents who did not understand high sensitivity, you may have felt too much emotion to​ handle. You might have had to​ learn ways of​ not feeling so much emotion.

What did you learn to​ do as​ a​ child and adolescent to​ manage your feelings?

* Did you learn to​ numb out, taking your focus out of​ your body and into your head, thinking rather than feeling?

* Did you learn to​ use food, alcohol or​ drugs to​ numb out?

* Did you learn to​ numb out in​ front of​ the TV or​ computer?

* Did you learn to​ leave your body or​ to​ dissociate in​ other ways?

* Did you learn to​ live in​ fantasy or​ daydreams to​ not be present in​ your body?

* Did you learn to​ be a​ perfectionist, an​ overachiever, always being busy – doing rather than feeling?

* Did you learn to​ get angry rather than feel the pain of​ the loneliness, heartache and helplessness?

* Did you learn to​ focus on what was going on with others rather than on your own feelings? Did you learn to​ absorb others' feelings and be there to​ help them as​ a​ way to​ avoid your own pain?

* Did you learn positive addictions, such as​ reading or​ sports, to​ avoid your feelings?

Those of​ us who did not receive the love we needed had to​ find various ways of​ managing the pain. This was a​ necessary part of​ our survival.

However, as​ adults, avoiding feelings has many negative consequences. Your feelings are your inner guidance system. Your feelings instantly give you much vital information.

* Your painful feelings, such as​ fear, anxiety, emptiness, aloneness, depression, hurt, anger, jealousy, guilt and shame, are letting you know that you are thinking thoughts that are not true – that are out of​ alignment with what is​ in​ your highest good, or​ that you are behaving in​ ways that are harmful to​ you.

* Your loneliness around another person may be letting you know that the person's heart is​ closed.

* Your confusion around what another person is​ saying or​ doing may be letting you know that the person is​ lying.

* Your discomfort around another person may be letting you know that the other person is​ not safe to​ be around.

* Your inner peace, joy and fulfillment are letting you know that your thoughts and behavior are supporting your highest good.

As adults, many of​ our emotions come from our thoughts. if​ you think a​ thought such as​ "I am not good enough, " you will feel anxious or​ depressed. These painful feelings are your inner guidance system telling you that the thought is​ a​ lie. if​ you then do something to​ avoid feeling the anxiety or​ depression, you are not getting the very important information that your feelings are giving you, and you are abandoning yourself. This self- abandonment – avoiding your feelings and the information that your painful feelings are giving you – leads to​ addictive behavior.

As a​ child, others may have been causing your painful feelings. as​ an​ adult, you are generally the cause of​ your pain – by judging yourself, neglecting your feelings, and making others responsible for your pain and joy. as​ an​ adult, it​ is​ your own self-abandonment that is​ often the cause of​ your pain.

As an​ adult, you CAN learn to​ manage your painful feelings by opening to​ learning about the information that your feelings are giving you, and by learning to​ access your inner higher wisdom to​ bring in​ the truth and love to​ yourself. You will know that you are thinking and behaving in​ ways that support your highest good when you feel inner peace and joy.

The information your emotions are always giving you is​ vital for your health and wellbeing. Why not start today to​ attend to​ your emotions rather than avoid them?




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