Core Value Eating

Core Value Eating



Who is​ more likely to​ sustain desirable weight, the valued self or​ the devalued self?

If you believe it​ is​ hard to​ lose weight and keep it​ off because you lack something, like discipline, will power, or​ just common sense, your efforts will come from shame of​ what you are, rather than value of​ your health and well being.

When the shame gets exhausting, distracting, confusing, or​ overwhelming, as​ it​ always does, human nature makes us revert to​ the familiar, which requires far less mental energy. That means the old eating habits.

Your problem in​ reaching and maintaining your desired weight is​ not due to​ personal failings. You have plenty of​ discipline – you have gone through so much trouble time and time again to​ lose weight. You certainly have will power or​ you wouldn’t keep trying after each failure.

The problem lies not in​ you, but in​ your weight-loss programs, which set you up to​ fail.

No weight control program can succeed by dominating your consciousness with food and weight. This actually increases the unconscious impulse to​ eat.

Setting "goals" for weight loss makes you fail in​ the long run. in​ other words, you win some, you lose some. in​ the long run, winning and losing even out and put you back at​ your original weight, if​ not higher.

No weight control program can succeed unless it​ helps you regulate the core hurts that make you overeat and attack food.

A successful program must develop a​ conditioned response to​ regulate eating automatically. Otherwise, you will have to​ do the near impossible: “stop and think about it,” when swept up in​ a​ rush to​ eat.

With Core Value Eating, you stop thinking so much about weight and start looking at​ yourself and others with more compassion.

Instead of​ making goals, you create more value in​ your life. You value yourself more, which automatically makes you value your health and well being.

You learn to​ motivate yourself with "Acts of​ Kindness," especially when you relapse. (Who are more likely to​ repeat mistakes, those who punish themselves with guilt or​ shame or​ those who value themselves?)

Compassionate eating conditions Core Value to​ occur with the impulse to​ eat. The reflex of​ Core Value will then motivate whatever you do, including food consumption.
Begin Core Value Eating with a​ list of​ five “Acts of​ Kindness” you will do for yourself when you have a​ temporary relapse of​ overeating or​ an​ attack on food. The point is​ to​ change the motivation to​ eat from avoiding core hurts to​ experiencing Core Value. in​ making your list, think of​ what will help you eat from your Core Value next time.
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With Core Value Eating, you learn to​ view your cores hurts compassionately, and when they occur, to​ look for the light of​ Core Value.

In that light, emanating from deep within, you will not have to​ worry about “managing” your weight. Your Core Value will do it​ for you.

Core Value makes us worthy by motivating us to​ accept, value, love, and, most important, feel compassion for self and others.

Health and well being depend far more on how much we value than how much we are valued, even though we’re a​ lot more sensitive to​ the latter. You are probably quite aware of​ the times in​ your life when you didn’t feel valued in​ relationships at​ work or​ at​ home. What you did not notice is​ that those were times when you valued far less.

Here’s a​ little test to​ show the power of​ value. List of​ the qualities that you believe make a​ person worthy of​ love. Just think of​ people who you believe are lovable, and list their most lovable qualities.

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Your list consists of​ various aspects of​ compassion. You have described a​ person who is​ accepting, valuing, and loving, someone who makes an​ emotional investment in​ others, not just herself. You have described someone who is​ compassionate.

When you feel compassion for yourself and others, you cannot feel a​ core hurt and you do not have an​ impulse to​ overeat.




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